My suggestion to you, OP, as well as to all the other women in your age range and above is to branch out. As for the guys who struggle, all the whining and sad sackery has to stop. Many of you sound like the 98 pound weakling who just had sand kicked in his face at beach.If you want a certain type of woman, you need to up your game. You can say all you like how unfair it is that women don’t like nice stable guys but deep down you know that’s not true.It’s time for you to stop listening to all the other losers at love and break free from that pack.Maybe it would serve you well to look elsewhere, too.When it’s over, you’re euphoric or despondent, alternating between mapping out a future for yourself or envisioning waiting for an email that never arrives.You follow up, you wait, things usually don’t pan out.
You use the internet to varying degrees of success, clicking and writing emails and then clicking some more, and sometimes, if the cards are in your favor and the stars align, you end up meeting a stranger in a public setting and make awkward small talk while wearing shoes that pinch your toes and more makeup than you would for a Tuesday.
Trying to date in Manhattan as a woman in her mid to late thirties and older is brutal. Use OK Cupid, as it’s a great way to get dates and get out. But if you really want something serious, OK Cupid is just not the place to go.